There are very few times in life when I think it’s appropriate to be “mad.” It happens, without doubt, but generally I don’t find it very insightful or helpful. There’s always something underneath the anger. Usually it has to do with the desire to be loved. If you track the feeling back, like really, really back, that is what you’ll find.

• Wife screams at husband for leaving socks on the floor for the 18th time.
• Wife is angry because she doesn’t feel like her husband is listening to her.
• Wife wants to be listened to so that she’ll feel important to her husband.
• Wife wants to feel important to her husband so that she’ll know he loves her.
• Wife wants to know he loves her so she knows he’ll stay around.
• Wife is afraid of being left by husband.
• Wife is afraid of being unloved.

That’ll be $3000 in therapy bills, please.

There’s No Point Getting Mad About Socks

So you see, there’s no point in getting mad about socks. Just skip down a bit and talk about wanting to be listened to and feel important. The husband has more of a chance of understanding what’s going on that way. The husband has more of a chance of understanding why socks matter. When of course, socks don’t matter at all.

Other people don’t feel this way. Other people seem intent on yelling about socks. I get it; I’m weird; I’m crazy; I don’t perceive the world the way everyone else does. And I really don’t perceive whyfor all the yelling about socks.