I’ve been talking about how the COVID-19 pandemic is affecting my mental health on social media quite a bit. I suppose many of us are. It’s a very hard-to-escape reality. Information (mostly depressing information) about the coronavirus pandemic is everywhere. But even when you avoid it, I find the pandemic affects mental health anyway. Here’s what the coronavirus pandemic is doing to my mental health and what I’m trying to do to counter it.
How the COVID-19 Pandemic Affects My Mental Health
The biggest way the pandemic affects my mental health is by upping my anxiety. (I talked here about regaining control to feel less anxiety in the age of COVID-19.) I’m a person with anxiety, period, and it’s not under excessively great control at the best of times. That said, it’s livable. But, but put my anxiety into the midst of a pandemic and it runs wild. All of a sudden, it surpasses its previous levels and starts to take over every aspect of life. Now I can’t take a breath without feeling anxious.
And, like with the bipolar moods of depression and hypomania, the anxiety is illogical. See, where I live, (British Columbia, Canada) we’ve actually done a really good job of flattening the curve. COVID-19 isn’t nearly the emergency here that it is in some places. I think we reacted sooner here and with more testing and it made a big difference (and let’s not forget, luck may play a role, too). Moreover, locally, there are very few cases of COVID-19 so my relative risk is very low.
But, as I said, the anxiety is not logical. The anxiety is feeding off of the environment. The anxiety is feeding off of the prickles in the air. The anxiety is feeding off of everyone else’s anxiety. So even when I talk back to the anxiety and tell it to chill, it just doesn’t listen.
So that anxiety is affecting my mental health by:
- Shortening my fuse\making me feel angry
- Creating unending agitation
- Making me feel extremely stressed out
- Silently taking up my energy and making me tire extremely easily
- Making me want to grit my teeth
- Creating excess, negative energy and emotions
- Making it feel like I can’t breathe sometimes
- Making me feel miserable
I know some of those aren’t necessarily traditional anxiety symptoms, but they’re what I experience because of increased anxiety. And all of these things are decreasing my functionality when it comes to absolutely everything — not necessarily just psychological things.
And don’t get me started about how anxiety-provoking it is to leave the house. That just amps up the anxiety to hellish, medication-needing levels.
For more on how the COVID-19 pandemic is affecting my mental health in my own words (including what an anxiety attack in your sleep feels like), watch this:
Note: the video transcript is available in the YouTube description.
How the COVID-19 Pandemic Is Affecting the Mental Health of Others
But of course, how the pandemic is affecting my mental health isn’t the only way it’s affecting the mental health of others.
While I’m experiencing the fiery, painful energy of anxiety, many people are feeling more depressed. I commonly hear that people are:
- Not eating
- Not doing anything productive
- Sleeping all day (or not being able to sleep)
- Not moving; hibernating
- Getting angry at those around them
- Constantly worrying (about pandemic-related issues or not)
- Feeling extreme depression (and all the things that go along with that)
And some people are reporting that other disorders, like eating disorders, for example, are also worsening because of the pandemic. And I think many of us are employing negative coping techniques to deal with the pandemic as our standard coping techniques just aren’t cutting it. (That’s why so many people are gaining weight due to this isolation. Comfort food is fattening, but it does make an effort to comfort us during a very difficult time; and, that is really what we need right now.)
In short, people’s mental health is being negatively affected by the COVID-19 pandemic in pretty much every way possible.
How to Deal with the Coronavirus Pandemic Affecting Your Mental Health
I do not claim to have a miracle answer, here. If I could take away the pandemic’s negative impact on everyone’s mental health (including mine), I would. All we can do, though, is work with what we have. We have to work within our current reality and our current reality includes a pandemic.
I think the first step is to recognize what the pandemic is doing to our mental and physical health. There are many affects and I’m sure I’ve missed many in this article. Whatever they are for you, just understand that you’re not alone. Whatever you’re feeling others are too. You are not crazy because a pandemic and its associated isolation is affecting you. That makes you pretty normal.
So, understanding that the pandemic is affecting you in many ways, don’t beat yourself up about it. Be gentle with yourself. Recognize this challenging situation for what it is: a challenge for everyone. And if you already had a mental illness before all this began, understand that it’s going to be harder for you than for many, and that’s okay. Just take a deep breath.
Other steps to fight for your mental health in a pandemic:
- Limit news consumption. Limit news consumption in time and in limit consumed sources to trusted, impartial sources like the Centers for Disease Control and Prevention and the World Health Organization.
- Don’t obsess over the problem, if at all possible. Focus, instead, on the solution. And today, we know the solution is physical distancing, wearing a mask, washing our hands, not touching our face and so on. Know that when you’re doing these things you are part of the solution.
- Get support. from your loved ones. While you may not be in physical proximity with others, you can be in emotional proximity to others. Reach out. Text, phone, virtually meet and so on. Your loved ones are still your loved ones even if you have to give them a virtual hug instead of a physical one.
- Get professional support. Reach out to professional help when you need to. This might be a telehealth appointment with a doctor or therapist or calling a helpline. Remember, you don’t have to be suicidal to call a helpline — don’t wait for a tragedy, reach out now. (You may also want to reach out to a virtual support group. Talking with others going through what you’re going through can be very helpful.)
- Keep up with treatment. This means keeping any appointments you have (virtually), taking your medications and using as-needed medication as prescribed.
- Try to reinstate a routine. We all lost our routines the day that physical isolation started. This is really bad for mental health. Try to create a new routine. This will help you feel more in-control and decrease anxiety.
- Make eating, sleeping and exercising a priority, if you can. For me, my functionality is impaired right now so making things like healthy meals and exercising are just impossible. That said, if you can make them a priority, they will do nothing but help you.
- Use your positive coping skills. I think in times of extreme stress, our negative coping techniques want to take over. Be conscious of this and try to use your positive ones as much as possible.
- Be understanding of your limited functionality. If you’re finding that the pandemic is stealing your spoons, don’t beat yourself up about it. You can only do so much.
- Help other people. Sometimes we can get out of our own heads if we help others. Whether that’s sewing a mask for someone else, picking up groceries for an elderly neighbor or checking in on loved ones, helping someone else can help your own mental health too.
- Forgive yourself for not being perfect. No one can follow every suggestion and just fix the way the pandemic is affecting their mental health. This is normal. If you find yourself veering from the recommended practices, understand that this will happen. You are human and imperfect, and this is normal and not a point of shame.
- Know this will end. Understand this is an extraordinary time, but that ordinary times will return. I don’t know when, but I know they will; and when they do, things will get easier, I promise.
I know the fact that this pandemic is affecting our mental health is unfair and painful, but we can deal with it and we can get through it.
Hi Natasha
While I agree to some extent that the government is doing a good job with regard to keeping the number of COVID19 related deaths relatively low in this province it is doing so at a considerable cost and causing untold hardships in people’s lives. There needs to be a better balance.
Many people have already lost their jobs, businesses have either closed or are barely getting by. The government is spending money like it grows on trees. How do you suppose they are gonna recoup all that?
There too many other important issues that unfortunately have been taking a back seat to this bloody pandemic.
I also think we need to put things into perspective. While I fully understand the need for regular hand washing, reasonable social distancing and wearing masks during this current COVID19 pandemic we are in, I think it’s also time that our government take some responsibility for he incredible fear mongering that has been going on which is flipping everybody’s life upside down!!! In my province less than 250 people have died from COVID19. Many more die normally every year from pneumonia related to colds and flu! Thousands more have died from the opioid crisis in our province (BC) – has taken a back seat to COVID19 “priorities”. Mental health is on the rise everywhere, especially in our youth.
I recently watched the following you tube video that put things into perspective for me and alleviated some of my fears about this damn COVID19 pandemic
https://m.youtube.com/watch?v=MFqpt9UuKCY
Hi M,
I actually think the government has been good about just relaying the facts. I also think that the _reason_ we have so few cases is because of what the government has done with regards to closures, masks, etc.
If you want to talk fear, I think most of that comes out of the US media and our own brains.
– Natasha Tracy
Sometimes what we focus on can make a difference. Lately I’ve been appreciating more of the simple things in life and admiring various examples of resiliency in my environment. For example
Last month as I was walking through a mall parking lot I stopped to watch a long haul trucker who had gotten out of his cab to stretch his legs and play a few tunes on his bagpipes. I think he was surprised by the number of people who’d stopped to listen and was beaming when we clapped for him afterward
Then a month later at that same deserted parking lot I saw a couple getting married. Yes you heard me right, married, LOL. They had arranged 2 rows of cars decorated in balloons to face each other with just the lane in between to create an aisle and someone at the end with a boom box playing music. There was also a cop car (my guess from the community police station connected to the mall) supervising all of it. I was amazed by their resiliency and creative thinking.
Due to Covid19 there were travel restrictions at the time so a destination wedding was definitely out of the question. Churches, halls and regular parks were closed. But at least they were able to come up with a plan that worked for them. They got married among family and friends, conformed to social distancing and saved themselves a ton of money during unstable financial times for most people. It’s actually quite brilliant if you ask me and an interesting story to tell generations to come!
I still struggle daily with my mental illness but like I said lately I’ve been changing my focus a bit and it’s made me think a lot more about what’s really important .
My niece was also telling me that where she lives long parades of decorated honking cars regularly wind through the streets in her community to celebrate the local children’s birthdays since they can’t actually be together with their friends. Her kids have taken to painting the front room window with hearts for the passers by. The kids love it ‘cause it makes them feel special and involved. My niece, at the request of her kids, also threw a birthday party for their stuffed animals replete with cupcakes and candles for each. It was so cute
Thank you for writing this. This is a hard time for us all.
I’ve been locked in my house for six weeks now and we may not get out for another six (or more). I’m at the point I want to give up. This isn’t living, and even when they eventually do let us out there won’t be any jobs and people will live in fear of going anywhere near other people. I had hoped this would be the year that I’d get a better job and maybe meet someone (I’m 57 so I don’t have a lot of time left for either), but now I’ll remain stuck in place for the rest of 2020 and probably 2021.
I have health issues that aren’t being monitored or treated because doctors and hospitals in my state are neglecting everyone but those with coronavirus. My health issues aren’t life-threatening but I’m also genetically prone to four different cancers and my routine screenings have been cancelled as well.
I really feel like my life will never get any better than it is and will likely get worse.
I don’t want to do this anymore. I don’t want to wake up tomorrow.
For me personally, at least, I fear that the cure will prove far worse than the disease.
Hi John,
I’m so sorry you’re in that position right now. I hope what it’s like to have your hopes dashed and right now that’s happening for many people. I also know that many of us (myself included) are having our health needs ignored right now. It’s really tough.
I also know what it’s like not to want to wake up in the morning. (I actually wrote about it here: https://natashatracy.com/bipolar-disorder/passive-suicidal-depression-didnt-wake/ )
I don’t want to give you a rah rah, trite message here. It wouldn’t be fair. What I can tell you is this: life changes and life circumstance changes. While 57 may not be a Spring chicken, it’s far from one foot in the grave. You have many years of unknown ahead of you and while the unknown can contain “worse” it can also contain “better.” Please don’t give up. Please keep breathing. Just remember, you can fall in love on any day. You can find a new opportunity on any day. We don’t know what’s coming. Yes, it’s really hard to get through what we’re living through right now but I believe we can do it.
– Natasha Tracy
Hi Natasha,
Thank you for responding, I really hope you’re right.
I’m trying not to let this endless lockdown get to me but it’s hard to see a light at the end of the tunnel. I’ll try, though.
John
Hi Natasha,
I really don’t know how I stumbled on to your blog, but Im so glad I did. You have lots of good information here. Being cooped up because of the virus leaves me feeling even more disconnected that I normally do. Thought Id reach out. Im probably old enough to be your mother, but I’d love to get to know you here. Your just down right adorable. It seems that you have found a way to share yourself and put yourself out there and consequently help others who struggle with mental illness issues. Im a fellow bipolar-ite. Just want to let you know, you are amazing.
Natasha,
Thanks, this is another outstanding blog!
I refer many people to your blog, too.
Regards,
Steven B. Uhrik, LCSW, CEAP
Thank you Tracy for putting words to my thoughts and feedings. Validating my reactions as not crazy, in so much as they are a somewhat ‘normal’ response from someone fighting bipolar and mental health issues.
One question. Living in the moment requires a level of optimism that I cannot find. Not can i find ways to help others due to complete withdrawal, even from loved ones. Nor can I see an end to this crisis. Much like the Spanish flu.
How do you turn these thoughts on their head?
Yes. This. All of this.
Dear Natasha,
I apologize for misspelling your name in my previous message. Thank you so much once again.
And also, to let you know, I am writing from Almaty, Kazakhstan, which is my home. And I have read your book which is very, helpful, encouraging and spirit raising.
Dear Narasha, thank you for all your articles and this one in particular. I wish you to recover your functionality soon and maintain your cheerful spirit as you always do. And thank you again for encouraging all of us who have the same mental health issue!